This Blog first appeared on the art marketing site Artonomy as a guest Blog and all I've done is re-post it here pretty in pretty much the same format. If you would like to see it presented much better than I've done here then here is the link -
http://www.artonomy.co/2013/03/02/self-confidence-artists/

I'd always liked art and enjoyed creating it. When I was at school I was confident enough to think that I would get a good grade and was told that I would. I'd figured I'd move on to Art College and hopefully a career. Even though we'd had four different teachers in four years, when the last one ran through the list of things we should have done (and hadn't) I was still expecting good things. At that point I was young and surrounded by people giving me words of encouragement and support. I thought I could pretty much do what I wanted and that meant making a career from art. I was positive and looking forward to the future.

So it came as a great and horrible surprise that I didn't pass. I went into a kind of shock and just stopped doing art. My confidence was gone. Someone, somewhere, who carried a great deal of weight, had decided they didn't agree with everyone else. I never knew why or where I'd gone wrong. I may have had the support but I didn't have the experience and because other areas of my life weren't so good I thought that my one chance had gone.  I stopped listening to the sage advice from people telling me it was just a hic-up, that I could get back on my feet and try again and all the other supportive stuff they were saying. It seemed very black and white to my inexperienced eyes.

Roll on twenty years or so and I happened upon an architect's shop in France. It showed some of his stuff and it was amazing. And I realised that the interest was still there and so was the desire. But my situation was different and so those supportive people I'd been surrounded with had moved on or moved away. The people I was with at the time were not the same and there was one friend in particular who taught me how bad it can be to be surrounded by the wrong kind of people. In fact he taught me so many lessons at once I wonder sometimes if things really do happen for a reason.

It turned out that this chap had tried to sell his art before. When I first saw his work (he'd hung some of his originals on the walls of his flat) I thought he was good but after he told me how good he really was I thought he was fantastic. I wasn't sure about some things but, because he was so good, I figured it must be that I wasn't as good as him. I hadn't learned enough or got it right. He told me that he had made some prints (a massive amount - 500 I think, A1 or A2 size) and had sold around 3. He went on to say that there was no point in even trying because if he hadn't sold any of his there was no way I was going to sell any of mine. At various points he would tell me how things should be drawn or what everyone expected when they looked at other people's work. I can't remember how long I lived under this guy's shadow thinking there was no hope for someone as inferior as me and I never realised until now how much damage was being done. . Not just by him but by me for allowing him to do it. (Then again, I was suffering from Depression very badly at this point)

I learned many things from this. Firstly, that if you have absolute confidence that what you do is good, you can convince other people of that too. You can almost sweep them along in your enthusiasm. Even if you have doubts like I did about some of his work, you can end up thinking that of someone is so good, those doubts must be misplaced. If this chaps's confidence hadn't further into arrogance who knows where he might be today/ I'm not saying that you should convince other people that you are good (that's up to them to decide) but what it shows me is if you have confidence in yourself you won't care about those who don't. And you won't give up either.

It also shows me that you have to have patience. You can't give up at the first obstacle like my friend did or I did and you can't always expect things to go right first time. I don't think that's not the same as not believing in yourself but more in trusting that things will work out. That you may need to pick yourself up off the floor a few times as you go. That it's ok to fail and then succeed.

Thirdly, it's not for other people to tell you if you are going to succeed or not. Not only do they not know the future but they are not you. They failed. It doesn't mean you will. It does mean that they didn't have the patience or work ethic but not that you don't.

Lastly, it showed me that when your heads not in a good place or if you are very trusting of people (as artists often are) then their words and thoughts can have a massive effect on you. I believed this guy he was very confident in himself and his work, I was very unconfident in myself and mine and because he was a friend I trusted his opinion. But he (and the majority of people I thought were 'real' friends at the time) never offered any real encouragement or support. Just told me it wouldn't work or wasn't good enough and that became my perception regarding art until about 2 years ago. The thing was I never even realised that until I was shown. So not only is having the wrong people around you going to keep you down and view your future negatively but these thoughts become a pattern that you can end up taking with you without even realising it.

The support and encouragement given to me when I failed to pass my O-level must have sunk in. Without it I would have totally given up as a kid and deffinitely when my friend tried to tell me I wasn't good enough. If you are unlucky enough to have been surrounded by people who put you down because it didn't work for them or who never offered you any kind of support then it can only be bad for you. If you can offer support and encouragement to someone else then it might make a world of difference to them. It is difficult accepting that people you may have known for a long time and regard as friends are actually bad for you. It may take a lot of soul searching and effort to admit that it's true and if you are like me, there's a lot of resistance before the penny drops. It is also very difficult to 'un-believe' something you've been believing in for a long time.

In the end, I let go of the people who were bad for me. While it was very tough it's actually been one of the best things I've done. The effects of those templates are still there, such as the perfectionism, but they are so much smaller than they were and getting smaller all the time. I know that one day soon they'll be gone. It takes time to re-program your head and to believe that things that have been so negative can be so positive. And it's hard to make some decisions even if you know they are the right ones but it's worth it. Things also come easier to some people than others but if any of the above sounds like stuff you are going through then take heart that things can change and it doesn't matter if they take a while it's the result that counts.
Best of luck!

 


Comments

11/12/2015 10:47am

‘Life can be demanding enough without us causing ourselves greater upset because we “don’t feel happy”. Instead, let’s welcome all our feelings of distress, all our thoughts and beliefs about life’s challenges, and focus on transforming these in a way that is helpful for us.’ This is the most influencing and helpful advice I have read from the book How to Cope - The Welcoming Approach to Life's Challenges: How You Can Turn Distress into Helpful Action by Claire Hayes. This meaningful passage is also very appropriate and really adds value to this article's topic.

Reply
03/24/2016 12:29am

Hold on top of modern traits within the marketplace. Be organized to trade if you need to. don't forget, what was running ultimate month might not be this month.http://www.healthsupreviews.com/viatropin-side-effects/

Reply
03/24/2016 11:51pm

Among the golfing GPS gadgets are very easy to apply. You truly find yourself from wherein you would love a yardage and the GPS technology within the unit will come up with the proper yardage to the front middle and to the back of the inexperienced.
http://ultimatemuscleblackeditionrev.com/viarexin/

Reply
03/26/2016 12:40am

You could or may not be a good candidate for this facial reconstruction. usually, the high-quality person to undergo a facelift is someone in whom the skin of the face and neck have started to sag. ideally, the skin need to nevertheless have some elasticity.
http://www.healthsupreviews.com/is-naturacel-scam/

Reply
03/29/2016 11:32pm

Do no longer pull your hair. Brush your hair handiest while it's far dry. Hair is the most weakest when its moist and brushing can effortlessly damage them.http://cuidados-saude.br.com/goji-sbelt-funciona/

Reply
04/01/2016 2:49am

Efficient mental imagery then activates our limitless creative capacity and turns it into innovative electricity. whilst this creative electricity is used, it will become innovative power which has the volition to show up our maximum centered intentions.
http://ultimatemuscleblackeditionrev.com/zynev-side-effects/

Reply
04/02/2016 12:10am

Top relationships between you and your customers are constructed on trust. So it is herbal that clients need to examine and understand extra approximately your organisation as plenty as they could about the people that stand behind it.
http://ultimatemuscleblackeditionrev.com/testorip-x-scam/

Reply
04/04/2016 12:04am

They will not be glad in case your not. but you are the one chargeable for your very own destiny so long as you work difficult and preserve to the nutritional as well as the exercising part of the routine, you need to be just exceptional.http://superpowervxfunciona.com/somatodrol/

Reply
04/07/2016 12:24am

But a combination of such actions are a superb manner to get a few exercising without it being some thing you dread.For those of you that definitely revel in spending plenty of time in your skateboard now you can justify it! that is part of your exercise for staying healthy and for staying in shape.
http://ultimatemuscleblackeditionrev.com/megadrox/

Reply
04/07/2016 11:42pm

Regularly instances we tend to locate humor every time we see an editorial in a mag or in newspapers approximately a couple getting divorced due to the fact one in all them was snoring. but in reality the addiction of loud night breathing is a good deal greater extreme than that.http://www.healthsupreviews.com/apexatropin/

Reply
04/09/2016 12:04am

After you upload inside the human potential to show it into a beneficial object you begin to deliver a fork strength and the way that human mind uses the device is without delay associated with how effective and useful the tool is.http://cuidados-saude.br.com/intelimax-iq/

Reply
04/10/2016 11:00pm

The product is notably effective and works on varied varieties of yeast infection which includes oral thrush vaginal contamination johnson infection pores and skin rash and the product is safe too and would not motive any dangerous complications.
http://realcemasculinobr.com/lift-x-farsa-ou-falso/

Reply
04/11/2016 11:45pm

The law realize that legally binding contracts may be shaped over the net, as soon as the contractual requisites of provide, acceptance, consideration and an purpose to create felony members of the family are gift.http://realcemasculinobr.com/e-intelimax-iq-embuste/

Reply
04/12/2016 11:39pm

Every other essential function of Android software is that it is to be had free of charge in sharp assessment to Microsoft home windows cellular software. Microsoft expenses the phone making agencies for its software.http://brainammoadvice.com/is-binadroid-new-scam/

Reply
04/13/2016 11:13pm

As tinted films block the view from outside they help in making sure privacy too. Now you need now not experience uncomfortable whilst strangers at visitors lighting fixtures manage to have a sneak peek internal your vehicle. automotive window tint consequently serves numerous useful purposes.http://realcemasculinobr.com/oxinova-funciona-mesmo/

Reply
04/15/2016 12:08am

That is why when accomplishing plyometric physical games it's far important to pick out recreation unique exercises with suitable loading as there can be greater transference across in terms of physiological and discovered diversifications.
http://rockhardfacts.com/megadrox-scam-or-fake/

Reply
04/15/2016 11:21pm

The actual answer is a heroin detox. A key element in getting a heroin addict rehabilitated is getting the heroin or methadone debris out in their body. nicely, which means we're returned to the clinical modality, would not it.http://www.healthsupreviews.com/megadrox-scam/

Reply
04/17/2016 11:25pm

We sit on our butts all week on the workplace then assume with a purpose to beat our youngster at basketball at the weekend. we've a tough time with half measures.http://guidemesupplements.com/apexatropin-scam-or-fake/

Reply
04/18/2016 11:08pm

A few human beings resist new ideas and pointers but you have to in truth embrace new thoughts. whenever a task is given to you address it quick and successfully and shortly you may develop a aggressive area over your opposite numbers.
http://guidemesupplements.com/testadrox-scam/

Reply
04/20/2016 2:19am

What are the symptoms to test if your puppy cat has a flea contamination first and maximum obvious sign is common biting and scratching in their fur as though some thing is hectic them.
http://www.muskelaufbauhilfe.com/lift-x/

Reply
04/20/2016 11:32pm

When supporting your toddler a nursing pillow can now and again be a massive assist. you ought to never feed until each you and your infant are comfy.http://jackedmuscleextremeadvice.com/megadrox-side-effects/

Reply
04/21/2016 11:14pm

Unexpected costs and impetuous spending can directly lower any savings nest-egg which you have generated and leave you right again wherein you started out from.http://guidemesupplements.com/is-megadrox-safe-for-men/

Reply
05/11/2016 4:10am

The most Alpha Man Pro extreme version of this method is referred to as orchiectomy, and involves surely doing away with the testicles. considering that they produce ninety-percent of the bodys testosterone, this technique may be very powerful, however thinking about that the testicles have to be eliminated, maximum guys choose another process. There are also tablets that halt manufacturing of testosterone derivatives, but those are not as powerful as an orchiectomy, and some might also have to be administered in frequent injections.
http://jackedmuscleextremeadvice.com/alpha-man-pro/

Reply
05/12/2016 2:04am

even as there are people struggling to lose a few kilos and to burn a few fat, there are also a few who intend to gain weight.

Reply
05/12/2016 3:32am

you've probable heard Garcinia Cambogia ZT people blame gradual metabolism and exposure of various food regimen plans claiming a faster weight reduction by way of accelerating metabolism. well, there's no doubt that metabolism is related to weight, however this relation is not that trustworthy you can expect. http://yaconrootmaxabout.com/garcinia-cambogia-zt/

Reply
05/13/2016 3:52am

Megadrox Tightening or contraction of muscle tissues certainly happens upon movement. Mobility certainly is facilitated by way of the exchange and simultaneous coordination of the contraction and rest of muscle tissues. A hectic way of life can not be prevented except a person is honestly proper at time control. http://novusantiagingserumrev.com/megadrox-reviews/


Reply
05/14/2016 2:01am

It s no longer Goji Diet awful to seek for expert help while you feel which you are in need of guarantee to attain a needing end result. Don t get left in the back of with others who had been passionate enough to accomplishing their most desired new body discern. you may outdo them together with your extra eager self motivation with the assistance of these non-public running shoes. they can even educate you the proper vitamins and food regimen so as to assist your food plan.
http://realcemasculinobr.com/goji-diet-funciona/

Reply
05/14/2016 4:17am

Consume greater, Weigh much less Goji Diet with the aid of Dr. Ornish. by and large vegetarian fare and strictly low-fat. gives the move sign at the "glow" foods, but warns to watch it on non-fats dairy and egg whites. This weight loss program is bad in calcium and retricts intake of healthy foods like seafoods and lean hen.http://realcemasculinobr.com/goji-diet-funciona/

Reply
05/16/2016 1:16am

The usage of to construct muscle continues to be a debatable subject matter. Many specific one of a kind critiques on this trouble. So it is constantly better to seek advice from a medical doctor before you begin the use of a product that offers synthetic hormones to growth the manner of bodybuilding.
http://t-rexmuscleadvice.com/testoboost-pro/

Reply
05/16/2016 4:39am


Makita tools Alpha Man Pro makes a speciality of production and launching wireless drills within the global market. additionally, the business enterprise also takes pride in the green and handy screwdrivers that it introduces. one of the state-of-the-art additions in the products that the . http://jackedmuscleextremeadvice.com/alpha-man-pro/

Reply
madre Ann
05/17/2016 3:58am

The data that the computer uses it frequently is kept in Main Memory, but in most cases it is too small to keep all data used by the computer. The data used rarely is kept in a place on hard drive called Virtual Memory.
http://realcemasculinobr.com/opti-memory/

Reply
05/17/2016 4:46am

Different, much less commonplace, sorts of reminiscence loss stemming from disturbing mind damage are constant. these result from damage to the nerves and axons (connections between nerves) of the brain itself. due to the fact the brain cannot heal itself like an arm or a leg, http://realcemasculinobr.com/opti-memory/

Reply
05/17/2016 11:19pm

you as the client.. Your needs and tastes as a client needs to be categorized clearly and well in advance to choose the best men amongst the male escorts.. Decide if the call is an in house or an out house affair, which means your place or mine, since the rates and charges would vary accordingly.. Fix up an appointment for the arrival of the escort, so that the company is ready to go along with you for the event in progress.. Male escorts would need to be paid for the services when the meeting begins and for anything extra an extra fee would be charged.Do not forget to pay a tip for a job well done, it is voluntary and not a compulsion though.A man asked a Sufi, �People talk about male and female, but what is the essential difference between the http://www.healthsupreviews.com/blackcore-edge-max-review/

Reply
05/18/2016 3:19am

These days, it's miles simply as taboo as Blackcore Edge Max lady menopause once turned into, no longer goodbye in the past. You do no longer talk approximately it. You do now not inspect it. You simply do now not go to the medical doctor for it. Heck, you try now not to even consider it. in some unspecified time in the future, even though,http://www.healthsupreviews.com/blackcore-edge-max-review/

Reply
05/19/2016 2:53am

Less energy and burning extra energy Garcinia Lean Xtreme are simply some of the strategies in reducing weight. We are also conscious that it's miles useful to look for clean slimming tips accompanied with some fundamental guidelines of ingesting extra end result and veggies, much less fats content and doing extra exercises. http://guidemesupplements.com/garcinia-lean-xtreme/

Reply
05/20/2016 3:40am

That have slim lapels. never invest in Garcinia Cambogia ZT double breasted jackets as they would make you look stout hence single breasted ones ought to be your choose. on line stores gives height lapel jacket and single breasted notch lapel jacket that might have upright neck styles.http://www.healthsupreviews.com/garcinia-cambogia-zt-scam/

Reply
05/26/2016 2:41am

A breast augmentation surgical treatment Miracle Bust might contain a breast implant that could boom the dimensions of the breast. Breast augmentation surgical operation is similar to breast enhancement surgical operation, breast growth surgery and breast implant surgery. http://dailyskincaretry.com/is-miracle-bust-scam/

Reply
05/27/2016 2:56am

preserving the above in thoughts one OptiMemory ought to not pass in for long hunger diets that offer greater harm than accurate. those diets aren't safe and now not powerful and subsequently they have to no longer be resorted to in any respect. http://cuidados-saude.br.com/optimemory/

Reply
04/04/2017 2:56am

Reply
05/14/2017 9:57pm

Alpha-Monster-Advanced is a main working out supplement that empowers you to develop incline muscles inside a limited ability to focus time. This supplement works in the best way when you consider it into your way of life that incorporates a sound eating routine and workout regimen. As this dietary pill manage the gigantic muscle development, it likewise softens your inordinate fat layer so you can manufacture tore and etched muscles with a supersonic speed. When you take this dietary supplement, all the dynamic elements of this recipe work steadily to enhance the possibility of your workout, helping you to perform dangerous workouts at the rec center. Furthermore, it helps in refining your vitality level, stamina and perseverance as it were. For more information Please visit :-

Reply
05/19/2017 2:32am


CBSE is the apex board of education in India which is not only having a pan India jurisdiction but also has global presence with nearly 141 affiliated schools across 21 countries.

Reply



Leave a Reply